Into the Unknown

We have three weeks until our oldest is off to moving onto campus. For me, I am super excited for them. They will get to experience something my husband and I have never experienced. For the child making the move though… They are terrified! So much anxiety over this. Constant sick-to-my-stomach days. Fear of the unknown can cripple a person.

We have tried to encourage them in many ways of how to overcome their fear. We have sat down for many hours suggesting how to do things. But… we can only make the suggestions, they have to be the one to do it at the end of the day. I don’t want to raise a child completely dependent on the parents doing everything for them. There has to come a time where the child steps into adulthood.

We have explained to them with the age that they are they would need to set all their medical appointments from now on. Not because I am being mean and don’t care for their health. But because HIPPA prohibits me from doing this any longer. We have encouraged them to seek medical help for their anxiety. They just won’t make the appointment to go. It’s so frustrating that they will not take this step. Instead they would much rather have fits of rage toward us and nausea.

On the front of packing to move… Oh my GOODNESS! This has been crazy for them to even bother starting the task. We have bought them many things for the dorm itself. All they need to do is go through their clothing and decide what they really want to keep and what to donate. I mentioned picking out 5 items everyday to donate til they leave. They said that is still too much at this time to mentally deal with. Not only are there so many clothes to go through, they have a mountain of belongings to decide their future.

Hard to move into the future when you still haven’t let go of your past. Our oldest adopted child gets so angry with things they never we taught at an early age. They won’t forgive their birth parents for things done to them. So much anger and unforgiveness in their heart. Even the simple things will stir up a hateful phrase about not being taught something younger.

The future of ones life can be a scary thing to step into. It’s not meant to make you fearful though. It’s meant to be an exciting time, a challenging time, and a time of separation from the family. I want to encourage you to not be scared or fearful of the unknown or the future. Look at the path ahead with joy and gladness.